Today I’m dedicating this blog to my husband, the chameleon. On the surface he is kind, compassionate, and incredibly easy-going. Behind the scenes he is funny, full of energy, boisterous, and my biggest supporter. The handsome man I married is typically quiet and shy around others but full of life when it is just the two of us. Our friends and family members tend to gasp when I tell a story which shows a drastically different side than his typical demeanor and I am often told how lucky I am to be married to such a kind, caring, wonderful man.

 

The Tyler no one sees

The Tyler no one sees

 

Tyler and I married young, during the early stages of our adult life following college. We were both 25 years old before we graduated college and had started our first jobs. Looking back we had no idea what “adult life” consisted of and were ill-prepared for the decisions that lie ahead. At the time we both wanted the same thing most newly married couples in the Midwest desire: buy a house, settle down, and raise a family.  Slowly but surely real world experience started changing our thought process on what we each felt was important and valuable in life.
Our Egyptian adventure

Our Egyptian adventure

God gave me the opportunity to serve in Haiti and Tyler later joined me on several trips to volunteer as well. We visited many countries in short amount of time, including Egypt, which exposed us to a drastically different cultural we had never experienced before in our travels. I began to realize I wanted something different out of life than our originally plan included. I wanted to see the world, experience life through other people’s eyes, and give back. This shift would require altering the focus of my career and our life together.
I gradually found myself yearning for a life completely different than what Tyler and I had planned; a life drastically different than our family, friends, or schoolmates from my youth. It was a startling realization for me but even more so for Tyler, a person who doesn’t go out looking for change. Side note: just to give you an idea of how much Tyler dislikes change we kept a receipt for 4 months after purchasing two bar stools in case he changed his mind about the purchase later on.
2013 Haiti visit

2013 Haiti visit

We prayed often about our path in life and what we each felt was important. We succumbed to God, allowing him to make decisions for us in the way he saw we should live our lives rather than trying to force anything. In the end we agreed our life needed to be different than those around us and different than it had been in the past. Our life would be met with obstacles and challenges our friends and family hadn’t experienced and therefore wouldn’t be able to provide expert guidance as they had in the past. We made the decision to follow what God had planned for us which seemed to be steering more towards giving back and traveling rather than living a typical Midwest lifestyle of settling down and raising a family.
My traveling partner on 4 continents

My traveling partner on 4 continents

We have no idea where God will take us during our lifetime but we’re excited to be on the journey together. I can think of no other person I would rather do life with than the man who changed his perception and his willingness to go outside “the norm” for me and and our life together. I really hit the jackpot when I married him and feel blessed to call him my husband.
My "up for anything" husband on Camelback Mountain

My “Up for Anything” husband on the top of Camelback Mountain

Tyler, my favorite workout partner

Tyler, my chameleon

To my chameleon: Thank you for taking the “road less traveled” and for going along with all of my spur-of-the-moment wild ideas, like skydiving and volunteering in the Rio Olympics. Our friends and family are right, I absolutely married “up”!